I have been dating a guy who am not married to for 11 years now with whom I have a child. When I was pregnant, there was a fire outbreak and I lost everything. Life became unbearable so I was staying with a friend till I delivered. After, I went to live with his mum in the village.
Six months later, I came back because he had rented a place for me. He always came home twice in two weeks because he told me he needed money so he was sleeping at a friend’s place to save the transportation. After 5 years, we still didn’t have the money so I moved to our family house.
Meanwhile someone told me he and his friends had rented a room and he was staying there. It’s been 3 years since I came back and he still hasn’t rented a place. I cook and wash his things anytime it’s dirty. I sometimes visit him there.
When I go and meet a girl there, he tells me he is not the only one staying there so I shouldn’t worry. During the Xmas, he travelled without telling me for 4days. When he came back I was annoyed so when he calls me I don’t answer. A week later, my son went there and told me he met a lady who called his dad on the phone. I called him to ask who the lady was and he said the lady came to inform him she is pregnant for him . He said it’s barely one month but he wanted to inform me so that when I came and meet her I would not fight her.
He boldly told me he wanted to check if I am the one who can’t give birth or it’s his fault because our son is seven years and I haven’t given birth again. When I asked him when he would marry me then he said after giving birth to two or three because the doctor said I might not give birth again. Last week he came to ask if I can continue the relationship or not because if I can’t, then he will go and rent a room and live with the lady but if I will continue with him, he will either ask the lady to abort it or give birth and take the child from her.
He is now telling everyone that I pushed him into it because I refused to visit him regularly and I am not serious about giving birth and all I want is getting married. Hmmmm. Please I need advice.
He says if I leave too I wouldn’t get any man to marry me so I should accept and be with him. I even helped him to get a job during this Xmas.
He says a guy who loves the wife would not hide anything from her and that’s why he is telling me. He is my first guy and first love. I am the one taking care of the child. I am working at a restaurant as a cook.
